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  1. mmm0091

    mmm0091 Sex Lover

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    My husband is a lil nasty and I love that about him, but he hides it! He acts super normal and vanilla - sexually. I don’t know how to get him out of his shell?? I worry it’s related to sexual trauma issues but that’s a subject I’ll never bring up with him. I just don’t know how to make him feel safe and comfortable.
     
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    1. squirtluver72
      Idk what you're looking for but have you tried to initiate your desires? Like if it's anal you desire next time you give him head play with his asshole some and see how he reacts. Even if he says wtf are you doing you can say what I want you to try.
       
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  2. TarlCabot666

    TarlCabot666 Dark Lord of the Slit

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    I suppose that would depend on what you want him to do. I know there are somethings, some people won't do no matter what you offer or how much you try to entice them.
     
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  3. WantSumCandyLittleGirl

    WantSumCandyLittleGirl Candyman

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    Give us a little more information. What is it you want him to do? How is he a little nasty that you know it about him?
     
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      I understand if he doesn’t want to partake in certain sexual activities because it doesn’t arouse him. But he won’t tell me what arouses him, lol. We naturally fell into a dom/sub relationship but he goes no further than choking or spanking. I have asked him for more and it wasn’t his thing. So that’s totally ok, but I want to know what his thing is? What kind of porn does he like to watch? What are his fantasies? I’ve asked him all these questions and he just looks at me and shrugs.
       
      mmm0091, Dec 1, 2022
    2. squirtluver72
      Have you ever sat and watched porn with him? Jump around and see what gets him hard fast
       
      squirtluver72, Dec 1, 2022
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    3. WantSumCandyLittleGirl
      How long have you been married ?

      Sit him down, give him a shot of his favorite beverage, then talk. Tell him you want to take your Dom/sub playing further and let him know no matter what he says or wants to do, you’ll listen.

      Tell him what you want him to do. What you’re willing to do. What limits, if any, you have. Then ask him what his limits are.

      It may take more than one favorite beverage. Just remind him there is nothing wrong with fantasies and living them out can be very exciting and fulfilling for both of you. It may require lots of patience on your part and you may have to sit him down multiple times.

      Keep in mind he may only be willing to do some of the things you’ve already done because he wants to please you. It may not hold any pleasure for him. It happens.
       
    4. mmm0091
      We’ve been married for 7 years. I’ll take your advice and do that. Thank you!
       
      mmm0091, Dec 2, 2022
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  4. Hamilton44F1

    Hamilton44F1 Sex Machine

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    Where your best underwear, short skirt and cotton blouse then cuff one wrist to your headboard. Lay a paddle, whip, sex toys beside your bed. Wait for him to come home and when he walks in to your bedroom look surprised say you thought he was your plumber. He will be mad at you and then he will want to use you and prove he is your master. If it doesn’t work on him let me try it out on you!
     
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  5. mmm0091

    mmm0091 Sex Lover

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    Adding: I know he’s nasty because before we started dating, we worked together and I saw how much he loved looking at fat ass girls and how he liked going to strip clubs. I know he’s not asexual, guys. We do have sex. But after we married, it’s like he put all that stuff in a box and stuffed it away. Occasionally, it comes out when he gets drunk.
     
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    2. TarlCabot666
      Maybe his kink is that he likes it as well. My ex wouldn't let me do her in the ass, until she "Showed me what it felt like" she said. I loved getting pegged. As to the lube being to cold, use a thicker lube and get an aroma-therapy oil warmer, and warm the lube up.

      Don't know about you and him, but I do enjoy warm liquids rubbed over my crotch and my ass.
       
      TarlCabot666, Dec 2, 2022
    3. mmm0091
      I’ll let him know we can warm up the lube and see how it goes this time.
       
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    4. TarlCabot666
      Have you ever fingered his ass? Maybe try and stimulate his Prostate?
      I think it'd be cool if he let you use a toy on his ass, while he pounds yours.
       
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    5. mmm0091
      No, he won’t let me get near his booty hole or even like sexualize his butt. I do occasionally rub up on his butt, but he takes it in a playful manner, not sexual.
       
      mmm0091, Dec 2, 2022
    6. TarlCabot666
      Awwww...that's too bad. He really doesn't know what he's missing ;)
       
      TarlCabot666, Dec 2, 2022
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  6. Hamilton44F1

    Hamilton44F1 Sex Machine

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    Do you ever watch porn together?
     
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  7. Hamilton44F1

    Hamilton44F1 Sex Machine

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    Maybe he’s into threesomes ?
     
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      I don’t know, maybe?! But I had an ex-girlfriend that tried for the longest time to become a part of our lives and he was NOT feeling it. In the end, he told me to do “whatever you want” with a little bit of an attitude. I explained to him my ex and her husband were into an alternative lifestyle. And I was open to that if he was…we also had another couple friends talk about group sex, threesomes, or partner swapping to us and he stayed quiet and turned away from them.
       
      mmm0091, Dec 2, 2022
    2. TarlCabot666
      Oh...I dig threesomes. I really enjoy DP. I like feeling another guy entering the same hole as me.
       
      TarlCabot666, Dec 2, 2022
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  8. cockasorus

    cockasorus Porn Star

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    Sounds like you need a side man
     
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      Maybe she needs two? :)
       
      TarlCabot666, Dec 2, 2022
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  9. TJ all day

    TJ all day Porn Star

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    Maybe you two just need to go away somewhere. Where no one knows you and anything goes and goes there stays there. A place to let loose experiment
     
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  10. Horny hiy

    Horny hiy Porn Star

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    Open, honest discussions. About everything. No judgement from either side.
     
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  11. Mature Sexer

    Mature Sexer Lustful Gentleman

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    Sorry to get off subject a bit, but your hubby is a lucky man to have a wife as open minded as you. Hope you guys work it out.
     
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      I might add that I have some understanding of your problem from the opposite side.
       
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  12. joejoe232

    joejoe232 Porn Star

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    Was he ever drity wirh youe
     
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  13. Oldotis

    Oldotis Porn Star

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    Maybe he is afraid of how you will react. I was in the same boat. I kept alot of things in because the wife had her inhibitions. Unfortunately , I have never been able to free her from those and Im in places like this
     
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  14. Madmarcus224477

    Madmarcus224477 Porn Surfer

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    Spike his drink with some Coke n Tina..
    Then he'll come WAY OUT HIS SHELL
     
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      Yeah, that’s a good idea. Fuck up his mind even worse than it already is. Just another eedjit posting stupid ideas.
       
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  15. MasterKC

    MasterKC Sex Lover

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    I don't normally say this, but I think some psychiatric counseling is needed. This sounds like a textbook example of the "madonna/whore complex". Without professional counseling, things will only get worse. A lot worse.
     
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      Disagree. Psychotherapy requires money and willingness. For what? To find out if he has any kinks? If he has been traumatized, perhaps he’s decided he’s fine without counseling and doesn’t want to delve into it. There are some who can do that - he might be one.
       
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  16. Guido71

    Guido71 Porn Star

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    If the guy drinks,give him some Mojitos,well rum charged.That will ease every inch of nasty thoughts.If that drink did not work,try Moscow Mule...Otherwise, smoke some good grass together, or drink a bottle of wine at night,both naked outside in your garden.
    If it still did not work, change your husband...lol
     
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  17. hannahsbigdaddy

    hannahsbigdaddy Stoned Always

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    Send him porn that you're into.. say let's try this..
     
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  18. Darrin Jones

    Darrin Jones Sex Machine

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    Have a couple drinks, not drunk, just relaxed. Let him know he can trust you, make him feel safe that he can share anything with you maybe share one of your secrets or fantasies with him.
    If you open up to him he will feel more comfortable to opening up to you.
     
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